Gottman Method
The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to couples therapy developed by John and Julie Gottman, focusing on improving communication, building trust, and increasing intimacy through a framework called the "Sound Relationship House Theory," aiming to help couples develop skills to manage conflict and strengthen their emotional connection.
Here's a more detailed breakdown:
Research-Based:
The Gottman Method is rooted in decades of research with thousands of couples, providing a structured approach to relationship therapy.
Sound Relationship House Theory:
This framework outlines nine dimensions of a healthy relationship: creating love maps, nurturing fondness and admiration, turning towards each other, letting your partner influence you, solving solvable problems, overcoming gridlock, creating shared meaning, and building a life of shared meaning.
Goals:
The Gottman Method aims to:
Disarm conflicting verbal communication.
Increase intimacy, respect, and affection.
Remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy.
Create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding.
Improve communication, build trust, and increase intimacy between partners.
Address conflict productively.
Build a life of shared meaning together.
Focus Areas:
The method focuses on:
Communication: Improving how couples communicate their needs and feelings.
Conflict Resolution: Developing skills to manage and resolve conflicts constructively.
Emotional Connection: Strengthening emotional bonds and fostering intimacy.
Problem-Solving: Helping couples address problems and work towards solutions.
Four Horsemen:
Gottman's research identified four behaviors that predict relationship breakdown: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
Magic Ratio:
Gottman's research suggests that happy couples maintain a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions.